{"id":4982,"date":"2022-06-18T19:37:07","date_gmt":"2022-06-18T19:37:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/4guysmagazine.com\/?p=4982"},"modified":"2022-06-18T19:37:16","modified_gmt":"2022-06-18T19:37:16","slug":"18-top-tips-for-successful-gym-cruising","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/4guysmagazine.com\/?p=4982","title":{"rendered":"18 Top Tips For Successful Gym Cruising"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

HERE\u2019S WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT GAY GYM CRUISING.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Some gay men see cruising as a lost art \u2014 killed by hookup apps, an evolved social climate, changing queer norms, and everything else. These people have never been to a gay gym.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Maybe that\u2019s not fair. Sure, Grindr made hooking up easier. That\u2019s what technology does. It makes things easier, not better. Now we regret the ease and effortlessness with which we can find a guy nearby who meets all our specs with just a few clicks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you want to try your hand at the tried-and-true, old-school art of cruising for sex in public, grab your shorts (no underwear necessary, commando only) and some lifting gloves. It\u2019s time to get sweaty.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

HERE ARE MY TOP TIPS FOR CRUISING AT A GAY GYM:<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

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1. Find a \u201cgay gym\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re in the Castro, West Hollywood, or Hell\u2019s Kitchen, every gym is a gay gym. But, if you don\u2019t live in a queer city, you will have to ask around. Ask the locals for suggestions on gay-friendly gyms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Asking around is extra work, but don\u2019t lament this step in the process. In established gayborhood gyms, the staff are extra vigilant and on the lookout for shenanigans (also called \u201cpublic indecency\u201d), which means you may have a higher chance of getting caught in those establishments. Some of the naughtiest sessions happen in small-town gay gyms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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2. Change at the gym<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most cruising happens in the locker room, truthfully. You\u2019ll find that most guys don\u2019t want to be cruised too hard out on the floor. I love cruising and getting cruised, but I also take my gym time very seriously. If someone is overtly cruising me during a lift, it can be distracting and a little annoying.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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3. Get naked<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Every time I go to a gay gym, I get naked three times: once when I\u2019m changing into my gym clothes, again when I\u2019m sweaty and taking them off, and when I change back into my day clothes after showering. The repeated disrobing gives guys three opportunities to sneak a peek and make a move.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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4. Wear your usual gym attire<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t wear the shortest, tightest shorts you own. It\u2019s sexier to wear actual athletic gear, not a cute club tank.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That said, don\u2019t wear baggy basketball shorts. Wear workout clothes that fit, and that show off your body (shorts should fall mid-thigh, never lower than the knee). Show off your personality. Some guys can get away with teal sleeveless hoodies printed with neon cats, but I can\u2019t. (Actually, I would totally wear that, tbh).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cruising is fun (partly) because of its illicit, wordless subtlety. Don\u2019t be too obvious, and try not to look like you\u2019re hunting and thirsty AF. You can dress in skimpy clothes and still be wearing suitable athletic gear. I do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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5. Stand next to him at the urinal<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Close-proximity peeing is one of the oldest tricks in the book. And it\u2019s still one of the best.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you\u2019re standing next to him at the urinal, glance at him and give the nod. If there\u2019s a divider, do not attempt to peek at his penis \u2014 not without his permission.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let him know you noticed him. That\u2019s all you can do. That gives him the go-ahead to glance back at you, or to nod down, directing your eyes to what he knows you want to see. If he\u2019s bold (or if there\u2019s no one else in the bathroom), he may turn sideways and show you what he\u2019s packing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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6. Don\u2019t wear headphones on the floor<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Headphones are useful if you want to finish your workout and leave. However, if you\u2019re on the prowl, be present and notice people. Headphones read \u201cI am not interested so leave me the fuck alone.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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7. Make eye contact<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cruising happens in glances: averted, held, direct, passing. There is an art to glancing that can\u2019t be taught. Mastering the perfect glance takes practice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t hold the eye contact for too long unless you\u2019re getting signals that he\u2019s cruising you back (a half-smile while scanning your body is a good sign).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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8. Ask him to spot you<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Some cruise queens say this move is way too bold. I disagree. You\u2019re asking him to be your spotter, not your boyfriend. Having a spotter is useful, particularly if you\u2019re lifting heavy weight.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t ask him to spot every set for a particular lift. That\u2019s rude and inconsiderate. However, if you want to go up in weight on your last set and if he\u2019s nearby, ask him to spot you. It\u2019s a great way to get him to look at you up close.<\/p>\n\n\n

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9. Always be courteous and polite<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nothing is more unattractive than a dickish dude who doesn\u2019t respect gym etiquette. It\u2019s an automatic turnoff. Don\u2019t leave dumbbells lying on the floor. Re-rack your weights. When you\u2019re finished, wipe off the equipment. Don\u2019t hog machines.<\/p>\n\n\n

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10. Leave your phone in your locker<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stay off your phone. Not only will this make you more present and attentive (and make you aware if someone is cruising you), but it will also keep you from sitting and texting on a machine that someone is waiting to use (see \u201cgym jerk\u201d above).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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11. Be friendly<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If he talks to you, engage with him authentically. Tell him your name. Ask him about a lift you saw him doing, even if you know how to do it already. Guys love talking about their \u201cunique\u201d lift, what muscle groups it works, and how their \u201ctrainer friend\u201d taught them how to do it. Everyone has a gym story they like to tell. I certainly do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Be charming. Don\u2019t call him \u201cbro.\u201d Do not immediately ask to suck his dick. Remember that some guys aren\u2019t cruising; they\u2019re just being friendly.<\/p>\n\n\n

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12. Get in the zone<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re working out hard, you\u2019ll look good without trying to. It\u2019s sexy to see someone working out hard. I get the most attention when I\u2019m pumped, and frustratingly it\u2019s also when I\u2019m the least aware of my surroundings. It\u2019s probably a good thing: I\u2019m relaxed, I\u2019m not performing, and that natural, unaided \u201cme\u201d is what people seem to like. Remember that you\u2019re still working out. Don\u2019t let cruising swallow your gym time. Interested guys will see and respect that you\u2019re taking your time there seriously.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

13. Pay attention<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If he offers you a nod before heading into the locker room, cut your workout short. Sometimes, we must sacrifice the last few minutes of our routine to shower across from the man of our dreams \u2014 or a stranger with a nice ass.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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14. Roam the locker room naked<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are few places where it\u2019s socially acceptable and legal for men to walk around naked in front of other guys. One of them is your local gay bathhouse. The other is the public locker room at the gym. Walk to and from the showers naked and show off your swinging cock for all to see.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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15. Be wary of saunas and steam rooms<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I know more stories of guys getting caught in saunas and steam rooms than I do of success stories. Typically, saunas and steam rooms only have one door. If you\u2019re rocking a raging boner in the shower, you can quickly close the curtain if the gym staff is nearby. In the steam room? Not a chance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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16. Crack the curtain<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Shower with both ends of the curtain pulled into the middle or with the curtain open completely. This is where you can truly perform. The shower is the make-or-break moment. You\u2019re horned up from pumping iron, and he\u2019s been killing himself on cardio. You\u2019re both hot and sweaty and throbbing with testosterone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

An open curtain is a universally recognized signal that you\u2019re interested, you\u2019re inviting him to look, and you want to look at him. It\u2019s essentially hanky code to say, \u201cI\u2019m cruising, I\u2019m game.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Cocky<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Serge Lee \/ Shutterstock<\/p>\n\n\n\n

17. Don\u2019t be nervous<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

He\u2019s leaving the curtain open just for you. Look across at his sudsy cock. Take a peek as he bends over to wash his feet. Make sure he knows you\u2019re looking. And most importantly, look at his face. Look in his eyes. Hold the gaze for a second. And smile. It\u2019s disarming and bold and lovely. This is the moment where you both know what\u2019s happening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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ArtOfPhotos \/ Shutterstock<\/p>\n\n\n\n

18. Follow him out<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If he\u2019s looking at you and you\u2019re looking at him, follow him out. Time your exit so that you leave around the time he does.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From there, my friend, you\u2019re on your own. I send you out into the parking lot, into his car for a quick blowjob, to his apartment, or to that dark spot behind the building. I send you out into the world as a hunter. Get pumped.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

HERE\u2019S WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT GAY GYM CRUISING. Some gay men see cruising as a lost art \u2014 killed by hookup apps, an evolved social climate, changing queer norms, and everything else. These people have never been to a gay gym. Maybe that\u2019s not fair. Sure, Grindr made hooking up easier. That\u2019s what<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":4983,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[59],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-4982","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-todaygaystories"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/4guysmagazine.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4982","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/4guysmagazine.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/4guysmagazine.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/4guysmagazine.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/4guysmagazine.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=4982"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/4guysmagazine.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4982\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/4guysmagazine.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/4983"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/4guysmagazine.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=4982"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/4guysmagazine.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=4982"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/4guysmagazine.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=4982"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}